A long and interesting question led one or more readers to the middlepeace website:
“How can two people who have been abused have a healthy relationship?”
If the two partners in a relationship have been abused we can only imagine how hard it is for each one of them to help the relationship working. Why is that? Certainly each person is busy dealing with own pain and trauma. The unresolved issues of abuse occupy the person’s mind to the degree that no energy is left for his / her partner. Sometimes we are more or less resilient people, sometimes we have good support system in place, and sometimes we are just left out by ourselves. In any case if you have been abused, neglected, abandoned, threatened, scared, and isolated, these are all reasons for seeking professional help. You will not be able deal with these issues alone and not without help.
March 18, 2009
Poran Poregbal
