Family Manual

For creating a Family we need to have a set of principals. We live in a world where we receive manuals for every single item we purchase, yet, once we are building families, we have no manual to follow.

Obviously there are huge number of literature and accumulated work out there; however, in our Iranian world, although we Iranian are family oriented, we still lack the main characteristics of family building.

I am certainly hoping that people from my home country and the Middle Eastern region would one day be able to have manuals talking about how children and families all deserve to live a peaceful, dignified, and respectful life. We all agree that individuals and families alone can not do it all.  We need stable governments who care for their nations and work hard to keep them in peace.

We Iranian often talk about how much we can “die” for our children. How about to “live” for our children and supervise them carefully?

We all believe that our children, just “ours” are the most talented and genius ones, how about see children, all of them as capable and genius?

We Iranian parents emphasize on respect, education, conformity? How about we respect our children to do what they are best at without asking them to follow our sometimes “not best” advises?

We Iranian have either too much control over our children or have no control at all. How about to work for social equality in our families, give our children a voice while we be the adults in our homes?

We Iranian always often talk about our great love for our families, while not spending time with our children. How about encouraging all family members appreciating one another?

We Iranian parents lie to our children as we do not tell them the truth about our life situations and then we ask them to always be truthful. How about we model honesty by sharing what is going on in our families with our children (in an age appropriate manner)?

Once are life is distressed due to many life situations, our children feel the pressure twice. Once our families are separating, our children are much more in pain.Once our men and women divorcing each other, our children are in conflict.We need to build a family, with or without both parents, in peace and harmony. We have no other choice!

Be in peace

June 2, 2008