Monthly Archives: March 2010

What Counselling is Not

Our job as clinical counsellors involves ethics and ethical practice.  What does it mean?  It means that we are bounded by law and Ethical Codes to practice in a way that we do not harm people.  This means that we practice in a way that we respect people’s dignity and whole being of the person. It also means that we are true to our clients as well as to ourselves.

On this note, anyone who is a psychologist, clinical counsellor, a social worker, and a mental health worker, is bounded by the ethical codes to follow Ethical norms ruled by their professional governing and disciplinary boards of registrations.

Therefore, there is need to view our Iranian understanding of our roles as clinical counsellor / psychologists in respect to the ethical codes we have to adhere to. I like to bring this issue home to our communities, because there are many confusions, misunderstandings, and misconception about who is who and who should be who.

The reason I am discussing this  is that, in our community there are people who create confusion about services that we clinical counsellors offer and stand for.

There are some individuals here in our Vancouver, who pretend to be something they are not. I am sure, this is not specific to any place or time, somehow there are always individuals who put their nose into other people’s businesses.

We hear from our clients, time by time that there are “counsellors” who impose their illogical and unethical views on clients.  I hear that there are some or one senior / older gentleman who works with families as a “counsellor” and he gives people “advises.”

We have been told by many of our clients that some individuals who advertise as “counsellor or social worker “in the Iranian community, have certain interest to destroy marriages when she/ he advise women to get divorce.

Some individuals have told us stories of how  in their ailing marriage, they decided to see a counsellor in order to help their marriage, while the “counsellor “told them they should take divorce.  Some other people have the experience of meeting “counsellors” who have taken side or not understood their situation.

Our counsellors in the Iranian Educators Society for Families likes to stay away from these types of people, misleading information, and unethical behaviours.

Exaggerating is a habit in our culture, we Iranians know that.  To exaggerate in this case, is more about misrepresentation and misinformation.   And it happens a lot among us.

It is a bad habit in our culture to call students in medicine a “doctor” already before they have finished first year of education or call students in the technical areas as an “engineer.”

We know that there are people who might have a bachelor degree in one humanistic area and they call themselves: Therapists.

There are others who have taken one or two month courses in “counselling” and advertise already as “social workers” or else.  However there is a long distance between just exaggerating and destroying life.  How can we advise people while the basis of any counselling job is not giving advice? What counselling is not, is about giving advises, interfering in people’s decision making, and taking sides.  We have to know that we can always report these fake counsellors or nosy individuals to the authorities.

Our community deserves clarity, ethical professionals, and ethical practice of clinical counselling. We have to go to basic and  discuss healthy boundaries while taking responsibilities for what we offer.

March 25, 2010


نوروز پیروز

همگرایی با بهار و همدلی با خود، اینست پیغام بهار.

هزاران سال است که ما ایرانیان و پارسیان نوروز را جشن گرفته یم. همانا که هر چه بیشتر به این مراسم مینگریم، می‌توان ارتباط انسان با طبیعت، انسان با زیبایی ها، و انسان با انسان را از ارمغان مهم این آدین شناخت. در این پیوند، شناختن مقام انسانی‌ و هویّت فرهنگی‌ خویش پیام دیگری است که بهار، این تازه از راه رسیده ولی‌ یار همیشگی‌ به ما می‌رساند.

باشد که روزگار بهتر در پیش داشته باشیم و روزگاران بهتر برای نسل آینده خود بسازیم
نوروز این خجسته بهار بر همه شما مبارک باشد

نوروز پیروز


نقش اخلاق

نقش اخلاق و تعهد در تمام عرصه‌های زندگی‌ موضع مهم و پیچیده ولی‌ در عین حال حساسی‌ است که از لیست مسائل مورد بحث ایرانیان فعلا خط خورده شده است. دلیل این از قلم افتادن چنین بحثی‌ هم واضح است، تا وقتی‌ ما در گیر ضربه‌های مهلک نداشتن وجدان نسبت به مسائل روز مرده مردم خود هستیم، چگونه میشود انتظار بحث اخلاق کاری و تعهد شغلی‌ کرد؟ رابطه زیر میزی و یا پشت در بسته و دور از چشم دیگران، پیدا کردن پارتی در این اداره و آن محل، رشوه دادن در سطح “عیدی و یا شیرینی‌” همه داستان‌های قدیمی, طولانی و ریشه داری هستند که ما همه از آن خبر داریم، ولی‌ هیچ راه حالی‌ برای حکم کردن عقل و منطق و اخلاق در روابط ما ایرانیان وجود ندارد. البته شاید این رفتار‌ها را ما که در خارج از ایران به سر میبریم کمتر بیابیم و یا ببینیم، ولی‌ به قول خیلی‌ ها، به محض رسیدن به فرودگاه در تهران این روابط مشاهده و تجربه میشوند. ترک عادت البته موجب مرض نیست و شاید روزی بشود بیطرف بودن، مسول بودن، و صداقت را دوباره سر فصل کار ما ایرانیان در تمام عرصه‌های زندگی کرد. انسان بودن آغاز راه است.


Change of A Nation

Congratulations Canada for the wonderful and unforgettable Olympic 2010

Winter Olympic 2010 was a real source of joy and pleasure for all of us.

Many of us feel transformed and changed forever.  It is hard to describe this gigantic phenomenon, still we know in our hearts that being Canadian has found a new definition and meaning.

Our children and youth had the chance to feel a sense of pride and contentment about who they are because the spirit of Olympic was all inclusive. Identity building and culture creation found a way in our children’s heart.  They will benefit from knowing who they are and what country they represent.

Millions of youth gathered everywhere to shout “Canada – Canada” as if they had never knew this word before.  A new, fresh, positive air was shared with all those who were caught in between two or more cultures.  Feeling as being one nation and being part of this larger truth of Canadian identity developed and shifted towards a new era which was blurred before.

Millions of Canadians experienced something extraordinary.   In every community people were part of what was going on here in Vancouver.  For many of us new comers here in Vancouver and for those of us who are native in this country, we could witness this huge, cheerful, and proud crowd on the streets.
For those of us who had the chance to walk on the streets of Vancouver, we could sense partnership, sharing, and ownership of the games. Here in Vancouver and here in Canada, we did see and observe a greater reality, the truth of community building.

For all of us media  users such as TV , we could orient us in the moments of the athleets hard work and challenges.   Being Canadian and becoming Canadian were the outcomes of a nation competing for a new search for identity.

Patriotism and championship for Canada turned out to become as an  embodied  part of every one of us, the essence of who we like to be and who we like to remain.

All kind of people from all backgrounds became one big proud nation called Canada.   Even though as an observer, we would feel to be part of this historic event.

Being witness to this wonderful historic phenomenon made many of us to be willing to contribute to this country whose humbled athletes changed our being in the world.  When it comes to ice hockey, it is now definitely a game that many of us who were raised to be fan of soccer,  we can  can cheer for this interesting game.  For many of us Iranians, integration to the North American culture is a reality here as we will enjoy watching the winter games that did not matter to many of us before.

Finally, it is clear that the notion of change in Canada and Canadian heart occurred because of a holistic approach to the Olympic 2010.
Thank you Canada and Thank you Vancouver for this true life changing experience.

Feb 28 ,2010


پدیده مردم پروری

المپیک ۲۰۱۰ در کانادا هم تمام شد. کانادا صاحب بیشترین طلای قهرمانی شد. میلیونها نفر به خیابان‌ها آمدند و میلیون‌های دیگر بیصبرانه و پر هیجان بازیها و مسابقات را دنبال کردند و شاهد رشد این همه زیبایی بودند. خیل انبوه جوانان و مردمی که به خیابان‌های ونکوور آمدند و فریاد کانادا – کانادا سر دادند بینظیر، چشمگیر، و قابل توجه بود. از دید جامعه شناسی‌، یافتن هویّت مشترک، شرکت در یک بازیابی ملی‌ از ارزش‌های واحد، بوجود آمدن حس همکاری و یکرنگی، یکی‌ شدن، و یک تن‌ بودن برای پیروز شدن، افرینش یک رنگ و احترام به یک پرچم، همه پدیده‌های مهمی‌ است که میبایست به آن با دقت نگریست. در این میان بسیاری از ما ایرانیان به شور و وجد آمدیم و در این جشن ملی‌ شرکت کردیم. ما همه دیدیم که کانادای بودن چگونه پر رنگ تر شد و همگانی شد. دیدیم که جوانان ما چگونه از ایرانی‌ – کانادای بودن خود لذت بردند و همرنگ دیگران از این همه انرژی مثبت استفاده کردند.

جا دارد که از این پدیده شگفت انگیز المیپک درکانادا بیاموزیم. باشد که قدرت تجسم و آرزوی داشتن این چنین حل و هوای را برای ایران کنیم. باشد که روزی مردم در بند ما در ایران رها شوند و شانس تجربه چنین پدیده غرور آمیزی را در داشته باشند. باشد که روزی مردم ما در ایران بتوانند چنین هوایی مثبت، صلح آمیز، و انسجام دهنده را در قالب المیپیک در میهن ما ایران، استشمام و تجربه کنند. باشد که پدیده مردم پروری‌ و روحیه پروری‌ که المپیک در کانادا به ما نشان داد، روزی به ایران ما هم سرایت کند.